The Big Play!

Logan is in a school play. He came home from school earlier this week just hopping with excitement.
The primary division at his school is putting on "Melton the Warm-Hearted Snowman", (Ha! Get it? Melton? Ha!) and my darling scored a part!

From what I got from reading the details, the play runs about 20 minutes long and is chock full of songs, costumes, decorations, lines, and maybe even some dancing.

I called home on Monday afternoon to see how Logan's day went, and he could hardly get the words out fast enough. "Mommy-I'm-going-to-be-in-a-play-and-I-have-to-memorize-my-lines-because-there-are-lots-of-them-and-I-want-to-get-them-right-and-I-need-a-reindeer-costume-and-I'm-so-excited-bout-this-play!" Phew!

He was right about lots of lines. He has TWO. TWO whole lines to remember. Two lines to project out into the audience. Two whole lines to recite while decked out in brown clothing and reindeer antlers.

First the school - then Hollywood, I'm sure! His enthusiasm is contagious. Our entire family has memorized both of his lines, and we'll all be there to see his stage début. We celebrated with a gourmet supper for two from his favourite fine dining establishment - the Golden Arches.

It's the small things that I hope he remembers forever!

Funny Business?

Last night's Aurora Council meeting was really quite something. The meeting started early for a closed session. I arrived just before seven o'clock and the council was just returning to session after the in-camera bit. The Mayor announced that Council would be reporting out on the 'legal matter' but not at this time.

First of all, I have no idea why they call them in-camera when in fact they are meetings held OUTSIDE the view of the cameras. Wikipedia tells me that the term is Latin for 'in private'. Why don't they just say that? It's not very often you hear folks meandering through downtown Aurora speaking Latin.

Things progressed as I expected - the agenda was approved, everyone listed the items they wanted to discuss, and they moved to the 'meat and potatoes' part of the agenda. We listened to two delegations, one from the Aurora Seniors' Association, and one from the Habitat for Humanity folks.

It wasn't much after that we heard that Council was going to recess to obtain some 'legal advice' behind closed doors. Off they all went - into the little room in the back. Word got 'round the council chambers quite quickly that this wasn't the first time they'd done this. A few people packed up their things and went home. I stuck it out and was placing my bets with some of the other regulars on whether they'd report out or not and tell us what's going on.

I know that the town has hired a fancy lawyer to help them discover who 'leaked' information to the Auroran about the Regional Police not building a headquarters in Aurora. I've read what appear to be two opposite sides of the same coin. One letter to the editor detailed how there was never any such meeting, and another provided more details on how the police purchased some land from the town.

If the 'leak' came from someone on the council - why don't they all tell the same story?

I'm sure from the point of view of a Councillor they must see the closed sessions as the 'juicy bits'. That's when they get to talk about the disposition of town owned lands, legal matters, personnel issues with regards to corporate employees, etc. All that the public learned from the hour long in-camera meeting was that the current mayor is going to ask the previous mayor for more information regarding the telephone logs that were kept last term.

I don't know whether the previous mayor has any responsibility to the new mayor or not. I strongly doubt it. That would be very similar to a previous employer of mine calling me to ask for information on something that transpired during my employment. Mayors are elected officials, just like councillors. Is a previous councillor obligated to share what they know with the community at large, or the current council? I don't think so.

One thing I'm certain of is that last night the roads were sloppy and the temperature was threatening to drop and turn the roads into skating rinks. I had the choice to leave whenever I wanted to - but I certainly feel bad for all the people who were required to stay there - reporters, the camera team from ACI, and all the town employees.

I'm truly enjoying this political hobby of mine. If it weren't for the signs at the town hall that announce that no food or drink is allowed in the council chamber - I'd bring popcorn, every Tuesday!

Picture Day

Many thanks to the anonymous person who left a comment yesterday stating that I should post something else already. My last post was in May.

What can I say? I haven't dropped off the face of the earth. Au contraire... life has just been busy lately - I've been living it instead of writing about it.

Logan got his school photo proofs back today. This year they took six photos, so I have six variations of his incredibly beautiful face to choose from. The trouble that I've got now is that I don't know which ones to choose. He went to school on picture day dressed as your average eight and a half year old. The boy in the proofs looks to be about twelve.

He looks like my son, but he's definitely lost his baby-face. His hair is longer, and shaggier, having been cut 'long and shaggy', just the way he likes it, by the hairdresser down the street. His eyes are still sparkly and blue, and he's smiling quite pleasantly.

This is the first year since he started school that he's had all of his front teeth for a photo. Of course this is the first year that he's smiling with his lips closed so nobody can tell that he's got all of his front teeth.

None of the pictures included his famous two-dimple smile. There's only one dimple now, just on the left. I wonder where the other one went? Hopefully children don't grow out of dimples!

Picture Day was always a big deal when I was a child. My brother and I would be forced to take turns in the tub the night before, whether it was Sunday night or not. Sundays were bath night all the rest of the year....followed of course by an episode of The Muppets on television. So bath time during the week was a rarity.

The morning of the infamous picture day meant I was roused by Grandma, fed, and had my face scrubbed to remove any traces of my breakfast. Then I was guided back to the bedroom and dressed in something that no child would ever pick for themselves for picture day.

The one outfit that I recall most vividly was The Incredibly Itchy Pantsuit. I don't know if it was made from real wool, or steel wool, I couldn't have even told you what colour it was until I dug out the picture, but wow - it was really horrifically itchy. Some how I managed to keep it on till the photos were taken.

I promised that I'd never make my children wear anything terrible, especially on picture day, because in my family, picture are forever and ever. Everyone gets a copy, and everyone hangs on to those copies, and pulls them out when you least expect it. Like when you get married, or when you hit a milestone birthday - out come the pictures. Eek!

Logan was at his father's house the night before picture day, so I don't know whether he was scrubbed and shone beforehand, but in his picture he's neat and tidy, wearing what appears to be a very comfortable shirt. Lucky kid!

I will make a decision on which prints to order, and when the pictures arrive, I'll put one in the frame atop the fireplace, pack up a few to give as Christmas gifts, and squirrel the rest away for the day that he gets married, or has kids of his own.

From the Mom side of the fence, he looked clean and cute. We'll see what he has to say about it when he gets older.

Look closely at my photo. I have a friend who reads lips and is fluent in sign language. I'm sure if she could read 'static' lips, she'd tell you that although it might appear that I'm saying "CHEESE!" after being commanded by the photographer, what I'm really saying is "ITCHY!"

Swimming...in Circles it Seems

If I just pay close enough attention to what's going on around me, I can always find something interesting to blog about.

Rumour has it that the Newmarket Parks, Recreation and Culture department is increasing some of its fees. The one that struck a chord with me is the Aquafit program at the Ray Twinney Recreation Complex. My mother quite enjoys their program, and she's there just about every day. The senior's pass cost is being increased to $91.85 per month. That works out to $4.59 per visit if she participates 20 times in a month - which works out to each weekday in the month of June.

The cost of an individual senior's admission is $6.25, so buying a 30-swim pass is a definite savings. Buying the $91.85 swim pass is a good 'deal' if you plan to participate more than 15 times in a month.

I have taken part in the Aquafit class a few times in the last few years. It is really a good workout, and seems to be very well attended most days. The thing that bothers me, is that the fees are supposedly increasing to cover the 'costs involved in the new Magna recreation centre' - or at least that's the word on the street.

Most seniors are on fixed incomes, and to jack the cost of something that's so good for the population just doesn't make sense to me. Too bad Newmarket can't add it's own municipal tax on tobacco and alcohol, and other unhealthy things. Leave the swimmers alone.

Evelyn mentioned to me once that there are a lot of 'non-Aurorans' participating in the Aurora Youth Soccer League. If the fees for soccer are comparable to the fees for swimming, it's no wonder there are residents of other municipalities participating in programs in Aurora. Right now Mom can join the Aquafit program in Aurora for $63 per month.... or $2.10 per visit. Mom's car won't use $2.50 in gas to drive to Aurora and back when she wants to swim... so I think that Aurora is definitely the place to be.

It just makes sense to me.

Birthday Meme

My birthday is finally here! I've been waiting to post this blog because the rules said that I should wait till the actually day of my birthday. So, here it is!

The instructions:

1) Go to Wikipedia

2) In the search box, type your birth month and day but not the year.

3) List three events that happened on your birthday

4) List two important birthdays and one death

5) One holiday or observance (if any).

Here are my answers:

Three Events that happened on my birthday:

1906 - Wright brothers are granted U.S. patent number 821,393 for their "Flying Machine".

1967 - Mister Roger's Neighborhood, the longest-running children's series on U.S television, airs its first episode.

1998 - Lewinski scandal: A federal judge rules that U. S Secret Service agents can be compelled to testify before a grand jury concerning the scandal, involving President Bill Clinton.

Two births and one death:

1622 - Louis de Buade de Frontenac, Governor of New France (d. 1698)

1859 - Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, British physician and writer (d. 1930)

(I skipped over the death part because nobody that I've heard of died on my birthday.)

One holiday or observance:

Victoria Day!

Bits and Pieces

I've been neglecting my blog lately - for several reasons. The weather has been quite pleasant and we've been working on the yard and gardens over the last couple of weeks. I've discovered Facebook and have reconnected with friends from high school and elementary school, and enjoy looking through everyone's pictures and comments. I've also been working on revamping Evelyn's website - it's not done yet, but we're making progress.

Chris was away for a few days, and I spent most of 'spare' time sitting on the couch reading books. A guilty pleasure, because there is always something else that I should be doing besides reading, but I really love to read. I was going to post a review of a book that I read just recently, but I've since moved on to another book, and the first one is now filed away in my head. Maybe someday it will come to the surface again - but for now it's gone.

This week has been an interesting one. I am not sure if Logan has spring fever, or if he's just testing his limits, but for every comment I make, he's got a response. For everything I ask him to do, he's got a rebuttal, and for everything that I say he has to do, he's got a whole slew of angry responses and facial expressions. I can't imagine what he's going to be like as a teenager.

I certainly don't want to extinguish his thirst for knowledge or his tendency to ask lots and lots of questions, but he certainly needs to learn that there are times when questions and comments are welcome, and there are also times when I'd like to just tell him to do as I say! Every day I sound more and more like my father. How scary is that, for a parent?

Today Logan's father and I met with Logan's grade two teacher. Logan is experiencing difficulties with his reading and writing. He's in the french immersion stream, but I can only assume he'd have the same issues if he were in an english only program.

Last week was his academic assessment which showed that his reading, writing and spelling are still in the low/mid grade one range. What to do? What to do? We all read to and with Logan at home. He does his homework diligently, and seems to understand what he's reading and writing. We'll continue to work with the teachers and other members of the 'education team' in Logan's best interest, of course.

One thing mentioned in the report was that Logan shows some signs of distractible behaviour. Instead of putting his head down and concentrating on the task at hand, he sometimes plays with his pencil, doodles in the margins of the page, or looks around the room. I think that what he's got is a bad case of "Eight Year Old Boy Syndrome", really. During the time it took me to type this paragraph I've opened a pack of gum and stuck a piece in my mouth, picked my pen lid up off the floor, doodled on my desk blotter (an amazing rendition of Humpty Dumpty!) and tied my shoe. I have no idea where Logan gets his 'distractibility' from. Where's my stapler?

The assessment wasn't all lower than I anticipated. His oral expression is in the 88th percentile rank. He's got the math skills of a third grader, and everything else came back average.

We shall see how it goes. More testing has been scheduled - this time more in depth, apparently.

I went through similar testing when I was Logan's age. The school determined that although I was reading at a level three or four grades above my own, I couldn't add two numbers together twice and get the same answer. I like to think that I turned out alright in the long run, and I know Logan will too.

Laughter is the Best Medicine

I love to laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. It brings people closer together, and is a language unto itself.

It helps that I'm surrounded by comics and clowns, and people who can explain their humorous situations so eloquently.

Everywhere I go, there is humour. Most of the childhood memories that I have involve some aspect that is humourous...and even if the situation wasn't meant to be funny, after the fact, well, all I can do is laugh.

Grandma got stuck in the pool one day. She got in to have a swim with us at my uncle's insistance, and when it came time to get out, she wasn't able to hoist herself over the edge of the pool. Instead of asking for help - she simply stayed put. In the water. For most of the afternoon. Eventually someone got a stepladder, dropped it into the water, and she was able to get out.

Do, Re, Me Me Meme!

I’ve been reading other people’s blogs lately in hopes of finding something really inspiring. Today apparently wasn’t the day for inspiration. I did find the following meme online, and thought I might as well fill in my answers. If nothing else, I’ll have had the opportunity to reflect on my year.

1. What did you do in 2006 that you’d never done before?
Created a blog! Not this one, but this one from a few doors down. My own blog didn’t appear online until 2007. I also learned NOT to use Adobe Contribute to build a website.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
I did not make any, and I’ve been 100% successful at not breaking them, too!

3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
Nope. The closest one was my niece Morgan, born in the spring of 2005.

4. What countries did you visit?
O Canada! I don’t believe I left the province of Ontario in 2006.

5. What would you like to have in 2007 that you lacked in 2006?
Someone to pay me to do what I would like to do to earn a living.

6. What dates from 2006 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
October 2, 2006 – that was the day that my Aunt Gwen had her hip replacement surgery.

7. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
I don’t recall any one thing that was a big achievement. I have a big head though, and am quite happy with just about everything in my life.

8. What was your biggest failure?
Again, see #8 – I don’t have any big failures to report.

9. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Good grief yes! Late in 2005 I fell down our hardwood stairs and broke my tailbone. There’s no way to put a cast on your tailbone, so I hobbled around and chewed analgesics for about 6 weeks. 2 weeks after I returned to work I dislocated a knee cap and was on crutches for a few weeks. Physically, 2006 wasn’t a fun year for me.

10. What was the best thing you bought?
Our new truck, without a doubt!

11. Where did most of your money go?
I gave most of my money to a dear friend of mine, Mr. Mort Gage.

12. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
Christmas. I love Christmas! And every year, there it is again, a time to spend time with the various members of my family, friends, and time away from the office. Who could ask for anything more. Oh – and presents! I can’t deny that I do like presents!

13. What song will always remind you of 2006?
Margo’s Got The Cargo. Don’t ask.

14. Compared to this time last year, are you: a) happier or sadder? b) thinner or fatter? c) richer or poorer?
Happier, fatter, and poorer.

15. What do you wish you’d done more of?
Catching big bags of money as they fell from the sky, of course.

16. What do you wish you’d done less of?
Complaining. I try hard not to, but sometimes the world just gets to me.

17. Did you fall in love in 2006?
All over again, every day.

18. What was your favorite TV program?
House, and CSI.

19. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
Nope. I don’t hate anyone. I have a list of near-misses, but nobody is on the hate list.

20. What was the best book you read?
I can’t pick just one. The last one I read was Angela’s Ashes. I like anything by Torey Hayden, Sydney Sheldon, and too many others to mention.

21. What did you want and get?
New pots. I had no idea that pots and pans could be SO nice!

22. What did you want and not get?
Rich. Yet.

23. What did you do on your birthday?
If I remember correctly, I had the flu, so we had a quiet family night at home.

24. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
I think it was pretty great as is. Not injuring myself would definitely have been a plus.

25. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2006?
I'm supposed to have a fashion concept? Is “Look What Just Came Out of The Dryer” a fashion concept? If so, that’s what I’ve got.

26. What kept you sane?
Family. (Of course, who are they to judge my level of sanity!)

27. What political issue stirred you the most?
Everything at the municipal level. I’ve been bitten by the political bug, and am really enjoying the infection.

28. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2006.
That my family is incredible, unbeatable, and irreplaceable.

Nana and Pops

Once upon a time I called them Mom and Dad, once they graduated from Mommy and Daddy status. Now they're simply Nana and Pops.

When I was expecting a baby we talked often about what the grandparents would be called. I had two Grandmas - differentiated by their last names and their roles in my life.

My maternal grandmother was the 'country mouse', quite content to rock babies and coddle little children. She baked pies and cakes, and could turn half a pound of hamburger and a potato into a meal fit for a king. This grandmother had three girls and two boys, and was the stereotypical grandmother. She tucked us in to bed at night with a hug and a kiss, and was never afraid to give you a swat if you deserved it.

My paternal grandmother was more the 'city mouse' type. She had a full-time job, and lived in an apartment. Her time away from work was spent doing things that she enjoyed. She raised three boys and no girls. The rest of her grandchildren called her Nana, but for us she was simply Grandma.

Once I appeared on the scene as the eldest granddaughter, her own children had been on their own for quite some time. The grandkids had a basket of toys in her apartment, and she kept a fully stocked 'colouring drawer' for when the novelty of the toys wore off. It seems to me that she simply suggested to my parents when discipline was due.

As a child I could always tell which grandmother we were talking about, based on the rest of the conversation. Not that I wasn't close to both grandmothers - but a kid knows. If the discussion was about spending a night at Grandma's house - I knew that meant Mom's mother.

By the time I was nearly five years old, my maternal grandmother lived with us. We had a full-time live-in Grandma! I knew that we were the luckiest kids on the block, maybe even the luckiest kids on the planet! Nobody else had a live-in Grandma that I knew of. My brother and I never had a babysitter, EVER. We had three parents at home - and Grandma came fully equiped with scotch mints in her bedside table, stories to tell, and lots of hugs to share. Who needed a babysitter?

I knew that 'Grandma' was the right name for my mother. I hadn't seen her in grandma mode yet, but I was pretty sure she'd follow in her mother's footsteps.

My father presented another issue altogether. When I was born, I did have two grandfathers. My mom's father was Grandad. Dad's father was Grandpa. Sadly, Grandad passed away before I ever remember his existance. I have lots of pictures of me as a baby with Grandad.

Grandad had a woodshop whereas most people have a garage. He was a 'tinker' of all sorts. It seems to me there wasn't anything he couldn't build or repair. I believe he was a mechanic during the second world war. In his later years his passion was woodworking. I still have the cradle he made for me when I was a little girl, and the child size rocking chair has it's own proud place in my livingroom.

Grandpa, however, was a retired businessman, and a musician. He never came across to me as being particulary handy, but he was always interested in a good conversation or a debate. He worked with his mind more than his hands, I suppose.

My father didn't fit either mold exactly. He was a businessman by trade, and a woodworker by hobby. One afternoon when I asked him what kind of patriarchal title he preferred, he told me that his wish was to be called "Grandfather". I giggled a bit, and envisioned throngs of young children sitting on the floor around his throne, pledging their allegiance to the family and the territory it represented.

Grandfather. Hmmm...all that I could think of was the lyrics to "My Grandfather Clock". The biggest problem was that my parents were not old.
My son came into the world when my parents were still in their 50s. They were old enough to have 'been there and done that' according to whatever experiences I had to share, but they certainly weren't elderly by any stretch of the imagination.

'Grandfather' just didn't work for me.

By the time my son was about a year old my mother had already been designated as Nana.

One afternoon, Dad took Logan outside to have him help with some 'work'. I don't remember the task at hand, but it likely involved pouring copious amounts of water over a flower in the garden. Dad reached out for Logan's hand and said "Come with me", and Logan put his little hand in my father's and exclaimed "Okay Pops!" The rest, as they say, is history.

Boy, was I mistaken to think that the naming of the grandparents was my right.

We, The People Of the Jury..

In Canada we do not have mandatory enlistment. Our young men and women need not worry about being drafted. One of our civic duties, however, is to present ourselves to serve as a juror when summoned.

I received my jury questionnaire about a year ago in the mail. The form was very official. It asked for my occupation, the languages I speak and whether or not I’d ever been convicted of an indictable offense. I dutifully filled out the form and returned it.

A month or so ago, my other half received a summons for jury duty in the mail. I was quite excited about the whole thing – but I’m like that. Any new experience is worth investigating. My number hasn’t been pulled yet, so I’m living vicariously through my spouse and his experiences of late.

He was at the local courthouse on the appointed day, at the appointed time to perform his civic duty. Day one was filled with lots of waiting - waiting to pass through the security check at the courthouse entrance - waiting for someone to call his juror number - waiting to see if he’d been selected. Lots of waiting! Rumour has it that the coffee at our local courthouse isn’t great, either.

He was selected to sit on a jury on day two. The trial was going to be approximately 2 months in duration. That’s when I started doing some research. Jury duty is not paid right off the bat. Some employers will pay you while you’re off serving on a jury, but some do not. By law – in Ontario, your employer does not have to compensate you for your time as you serve on a jury. By law, however, they do have to allow you the time away from work in order to perform your duty as a Canadian.

In Ontario, the first 10 days that you work as a juror are unpaid. On day eleven you start to earn money - $40 a day, to be exact. That’s $5 per hour. Nobody’s going to get rich sitting on a jury around here, that’s for sure.

Your income jumps to $100 per day once you hit day fifty-one.

The first case that Chris was chosen for was going to be roughly two months in duration. Two months is a long time to go without his ‘anticipated salary’, or at least it appears that way from my side of the accounting ledger. He was advised that he could plead ‘personal hardship’ if serving for such a long period of time was going to impact his financial obligations. Thankfully, that’s just what he did.

From what I understand, lots of people did the same thing. There were a few people there with what seemed to be perfectly legitimate reasons for not wanting to sit for 2 months on a panel of jurors. Imagine that you’re a stay-at-home parent with four or five children who depend on you for care while your spouse is at work. Daycare for four or five children for a day would far exceed the $40 allotment that you’d get on day eleven.

I did a little bit of research, and different provinces have different guidelines for jury pay. In Québec, jurors receive meal allowances of about $45 per day. That’s more than the Ontario jury pay amount, and in Ontario you're not compensated for your meals.

In Québec, jurors are entitled to compensation of $90 per day during the hearing and deliberation. They receive the same compensation for each full day as long as they remain on the jury and are confined to the premises designated by the sheriff. If the jury is put into seclusion for the evening (if no verdict has been reached) then they receive a supplementary allowance of $45.

Depending on your salary, and what you do for a living, one might actually MAKE some money serving on a jury in la belle province. A juror in Québec would also receive an allotment for childcare. I don’t quite understand why the pay scale is different from province to province.

As a member of the jury, one is not supposed to talk about what’s going on. Chris is not supposed to read about it, and he’s most certainly not supposed to come home and spill his guts to me.

All that I could get out of him was that the case that has come to trial this week is about ‘an incident’ that occurred in 2001. That was six years ago. I don’t remember what I had for breakfast yesterday, and I have no recollection of what went on six years ago from today. I suppose if whatever transpired was out of the ordinary I might still have some recollection – but I’m surprised that our system works so slowly. Wow.

At any rate, my partner is definitely being a good Canadian. He will do what’s required of him.

I’m glad I wasn’t chosen. . . . not because I’d lose some income, I think I could deal with that. I’m happy not to be chosen because from what I understand, although they call you “Juror Number 54321” they also call you by name. As you walk into the room with the alleged criminal and both teams of legal representation….they announce YOUR NAME to the world. I’m quite happy to NOT make Joe Criminal aware of my first and last names, thank you very much.

But again, I’m like that.

Walkabout Waste

About 2 months ago I came across this blog while searching Google for other bloggers in Aurora.

I'm very impressed with the efforts that Mrs. Walkabout Waste is making to clean up our town. As hypocritical as it might sound (because I'm not going above and beyond as she is to try and make a difference) - I have noticed the different piles of garbage on Yonge Street, but mostly the obvious ones - piles of garbage that seem to be neglected by the garbage man.

Reading Walkabout Waste has really made me stop and examine my surroundings just a little bit closer. I'm flabbergasted by the number of takeout coffee cups and fast food packaging that I see tossed willy-nilly in the vicinity of the restaurants. That's what the trash cans are there for, people!

Hopefully reading through these de-littering adventures will prompt other citizens to take note of their surroundings. I think the first step is recognizing that the problem exists - and hopefully everyone will do their part to clean up after themselves.

And, just for the record, if you're really unsure what to do with that empty coffee cup as you're driving to work - do just what I do... toss it on the floor of the back seat of your car. Once you have a large enough collection back their, your spouse will grumble, or your children will complain because there's no room to sit - then you simply gather them all up in a bag, and put them in their place! Ha!

"Ay, the Ides of March Are Come, But They Are Not Gone"

Have you ever had the feeling that you’ve forgotten something? Well, for me, today, that’s how I feel - not that I’ve forgotten something mundane like to brush my teeth or to turn the furnace down before I left the house this morning – but that I’ve forgotten something of paramount importance.

I have scoured my calendar, it’s not my mother’s birthday, it’s not anybody’s anniversary. Today I didn’t have any appointments scheduled at all. My office calendar is clear too. All of my bills are paid in full, and there is still money in the bank for the next round.

Yet, I have this feeling in the bottom of my stomach that at any minute someone will pounce on me, leaping out of the shadows waving a calendar or an invoice and shouting “You forgot! How dare you?”

"Well, the Ides of March are come. Ay, they are come, but they are not gone."

Maybe I’m still ensconced in the story that I’ve been reading. “The Fortune Teller” by Marsha Norman.

Fay, the protagonist, is just that, a fortune teller who is not always looked upon kindly by her neighbours. Norman paints a clear picture of how Fay is made out to be a ‘freak’ by the locals.

The storyline is twofold…in the ‘main storyline’ Fay uses her psychic ability to help pinpoint the location of 27 children who have gone missing from the fairgrounds. I’m quite intrigued with her ability to simply study at a picture of one of the missing children, put her head down on the table and, using her mind’s eye, see everything that the abducted child can see in their surroundings.

In one chapter, she ‘mentally suggests’ to a three year old girl to walk closer to a gym bag on the floor in hopes that she can catch a glimpse of the name and address on the tag. The little girl does just as she suggests, and shortly thereafter, the police arrive at the house and happily reunite the little one with her distraught mother. Fay is credited with the child’s safe return, and the townsfolk are thrilled and suddenly very accepting of her abilities.

In the second storyline, which flows parallel to the missing children saga, Fay is struggling with to accept her own abilities. Fay’s daughter, Lizzie, is nearing adulthood and is ‘leaving the nest’ as the expression goes. Lizzie doesn’t do anything that a normal 17 year old wouldn’t do - the trouble lies first of all in her mother’s lack of acceptance. Fay simply can’t bear to watch Lizzie grow up because she knows that means that one day Lizzie will leave and she’ll be alone. Through all of the issues in their small town, the one constant, the one normal thing that Fay clung to, was her daughter Lizzie. Unfortunately for Fay, childhood is not everlasting.

Although Fay isn’t willing to accept that one day her daughter might just pack her bags and move out of their home above the fortune telling studio – the fact that Fay can ‘channel in’ to what is going on in her daughter’s life doesn’t help the situation at all. Fay sees snippets of Lizzie’s evening cruise with a dark-haired young man that Fay refers to as “The Devil”. Fay observes Lizzie’s wedding day procession down the aisle of a fancy church, and can see that the brides side of the church is totally vacant.

I’m only half way through the novel, and right now Fay is still trying to help locate the abductees, while trying to keep focused on what is going on with her daughter. I’m very intrigued. The locating of the children makes me think that a psychic ability is definitely a blessing……but watching Fay’s daughter ‘grow away’ – well, that’s the flip side obviously.

I wonder, if I had a similar ability, would I be able to see what I feel like I’ve forgotten….or would I not have forgotten it in the first place because my thoughts would always be ahead of what is going on in the here and now?

“I can always remember anything I don’t forget,
But sometimes I forget to remember.”
~Uncle George

The Finished Masterpiece

I'm quite pleased with the finished results. It took a lot of finicky final touches, but here it is!

Running with the Herd

A friend suggested that I post my answers to the following questions on my blog. Why? I don't know exactly, but apparently everbody's doing it.

It's Sunday morning and I'm all mixed up with the time change - so I thought I might as well, while I wait for the rest of the world to wake up. Here we go:

1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was your first thought?
I have no idea what time it is!

2. Do you read while you're in the bathroom?
Of course! Unless I'm brushing my teeth, I'm not that coordinated.

3. What rhymes with fit?
Knit!

4. Favourite planet?
The sun - life would be pretty dismal without it, now wouldn't it?

5. Who is the fourth person on your missed call list?
I don't have caller id.

6. What is your favourite ring on your phone?
We have one that plays the Star Spangled Banner, which is neat - right now it's set to Beethoven's 9th (Ode to Joy).

7. What shirt are you wearing?
A pink one!

8. What were you doing 20 minutes ago?
Pouring a second cup of coffee.

9. Name the brand of shoes you are currently wearing.
Fuzzy purple slippers.

10. Bright or dark rooms?
Bright! I don't like 'muddy colours' or dark ones for the walls.

11. What do you think of the person who posted this survey?
Well, that would be me - I think I'm alright.

12. If you're in a room with two beds which one do you sleep in?
The empty one.

13. What were you doing at exactly midnight last night?
Sleeping.

14. What was the last text message you received on your cell phone?
Telus - reminding me that I was almost out of airtime.

15. How do you like your eggs?
Poached, with Hollandaise sauce.

16. What's a word/phrase you say a lot?
I'm not sure - I will have to pay close attention to myself today and see what word appears most frequently.

17. Who told you he/she loved you last?
My Mom. She's the best!

18. Last furry thing you touched?
Besides the slippers? I guess the last furry thing I touched was Muffy.

19. How many drugs have you done in the past three days?
Uhhh... I took an Advil one day this week for a headache.

20. How many rolls of film do you need to get developed?
Film? I have a digital camera, and don't use film.

21. Favourite age you've been so far?
Twenty-four was the year I had my son, that was a pretty good year for me.

22. Worst enemy?
I don't have an enemy.

24. What's the last thing you said to someone?
This is a silly question. I said "Bye, Chris!" when he went out.

25. If you had to choose between a million dollars and being able to fly?
Show me the money!

26. Do you like someone?
Is this a teeny-bopper question? I like lots of somebodies!

27. If you could punch one person in the face, who would it be?
Right now, nobody.

28. What's the closest object to your left foot?
My left slipper, of course.

29. If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
I'd like skin that never wrinkles, hair that never grays, and vision and hearing that never fails. to look back proudly on my life some day and realize that the white hair I earned didn't come from simply walking through a snowstorm. White hair is like stretch marks - battle scars that one should be proud of!

30. If one thing about you could always remain the same, what would it be?
My ability to talk. Without that, I'm afraid I'd be nothing at all!

That Was Then, and This is ....Almost Finished

Here is the 'before' photo. The original is about 3 inches tall and 2 inches wide. Notice the wear mark where the little boy's forehead used to be. Poor kid!


And here is my progress so far. I've fixed his forehead, and have started to add some colour: Adding colour to the shrub rose in the background is going to be quite a challenge, as I'll have to do them one at a time.

I had a hard time selecting colours that appeared 'washed out enough' to be natural looking in a photo this age. Little Harry's blue socks are still a bit too dark, but I will fade them out as I continue.

I'm really enjoying the learning process that goes along with a project like this. I now have a great appreciation for why so many photo restoration places charge an arm and a leg for this service!

A Work in Progress

Here is another old photo that I'm working on adjusting. The original was wrinkled with age, and there was a gaping hole where the little boy's forehead should have been:

I've filled in the hole as best I can, and am now working on recolouring the image just slightly. We'll see how it goes. I will post a complete before and after once the picture is finalized.

A Blast from the Past - and Some Photo Editing

According to the writing on the back of this photo, it was taken September 6, 1941 when my Grandad Morton was home on leave during WWII. Grandad isn't in the picture, so I can only assume he was the photographer.

Back row, left to right, Clarence, Iva (Grandma) and Norris

Front row, left to right, Blanche and Gwen.

The picture above looks pretty straightforward, but I put a lot of time into making it look that way. The copy I had looked to be a proof, it was approximately 2.5" square, including a white border around the outside.

I scanned the photo into my computer at 1200 dots per inch using the software that came with the scanner. Then I switched to my new favourite program, Paint.Net. I blew the picture up to the point where I could clearly see the facial features of each of the people, and began to edit.

I removed some blotchy areas, cut out the top of the window, added the smoky border, and typed the date at the bottom. The copy I have now is nearly 4" wide and 6" high and it's much easier to look at. I'm very satisfied with my efforts.

This picture was taken a few years before my mother was born. I intend to find one that includes the whole family, and see how I can improve it to share with my family.

"I've Been to London to Visit the Queen"

Well, I didn't venture as far as London, but I did go to the local theatre to see Helen Mirren starring in "The Queen", on Friday night. I go to the movies no more than twice a year, so I have to really want to see one before I'll shell out the $10+ that it costs for a theatre ticket.

The movie was only mediocre. On second thought, mediocre may be not quite positive enough, but "relatively good' is too strong of a rating. I read several reviews of the movie before going to see this film, and the reviews made the movie sound like a groundbreaking film that everyone should see - a film with fantastic acting, wonderful dialogue, and all the glamour that Hollywood and Royalty combined should exude.

That may have been partly why I was disappointed. The last review that I came across gave the movie 7.9 out of 10, so I expected to see a really good show.

Helen Mirren won an Oscar for her acting in the movie. There were a few scenes where she portrayed a teary-eyed Queen, and there were a few scenes where she snuck in a quick smile or a sneer, but the role didn't seem to be one requiring fantastically honed acting skills.

The scene that struck me as the best acted was the one where the Queen was attempting to cross the river narrows and bottomed-out the truck on a rock. The truck's axle was broken, and the Queen stomped around, and peered under the vehicle with a puzzled look on her face, before using her cellphone to summon some help. I can relate to that frustration.

I'm not an actress, but I still can't see that the role of HRH called for a lot of 'emotion' or characterization. Maybe Helen Mirren is bubbly and vivacious in real life, so changing herself into someone who appeared mostly calm and collected WAS in fact an act. I don't know.

I left the movie wanting to hear the next part of the storyline...what happened in the relationship between the Queen and Tony Blair? And why didn't Mr. Blair and his wife either do their dishes or clean the toys up from the kitchen floor - or hire someone to do that?

Why did the Queen spend so much time saying "I must be with the boys", and "My grandsons need me", yet they were never all seen in the same room at all during the film? That was not very believable.

The only thing that I really found truthful, based on my recollections of the news reports at the time, was the public's outpouring of sorrow when the People's Princess was killed. The Queen was portrayed to be unemotional for the most part, and relatively aloof about the whole ordeal.

I think I'll stick to reading the movie reviews for entertainment now.

A Double Whammy

Ever have one of those days you just wish would end.... right now!? Or one, where if you could rewind it, you'd simply start all over again with a fresh attitude and a cheery outlook? That's how I feel today.

My day started to descend around 8am this morning when I was attempting to call the dentist's office to get an appointment. I've had a toothache for 2 days, and thought that I either lost a filling, or simply developed a really vicious cavity.

I called the dentist's office number, and a cheery voice said "Our office hours are from 8am to 5pm. Please dial the extension you wish to reach, or please hold for the receptionist", and at that point I spiralled into voicemail hell. There was no receptionist at that hour, but there was no voicemail either.

I tried back a few times, and finally reached the happy receptionist around 8:20. Sure, that's only 20 minutes...but 20 minutes when you have an agonizing toothache that feels like a drill from your molars into your brain - well, that's probably the longest 20 minutes a human can endure. Happy Receptionist secured me an appointment for later this afternoon.

Fast forward to about 3 o'clock. I left work, and drove to my mother's house so I could brush my teeth in a familiar bathroom. A few minutes later I headed out to the dentists.

I was travelling east on a 4 lane road. I was in the curb lane and I noticed that about 50 ft ahead of me there was a transport truck PARKED in my lane with it's flashers on. I signalled at that point to move into the passing lane, looked in my mirror when I put on the signal, looked over my shoulder at my blind spot just before I made the lane change. I merged successfully and there was no traffic at all that I could see in the passing lane before I merged (this is important later - but doesn't it just make sense that I would NOT have merged if there was other cars right there?).

So...I was travelling due east in the passing lane, passed the transport and was just going to contemplate moving back into the curb lane....speed limit was 60km/hr and because of my lane change, having crossed over the traintracks about 40 ft before the transport truck, and b/c the roads were wet but not snowy, travelling up a slight incline in a manual transmission (I was in 3rd gear and my car will NOT go into 4th successfully unless I'm going over 60 k/hr - otherwise she moans and groans), I highly doubt that I was travelling at 60k.

Anyway....I'm now in the passing lane, travelling along and THWACK! For a split second I was confused. There were no cars around (or so I thought - other than a few in the opposite lanes) and I heard the thwack and felt the impact, but it all happened in slow motion and I couldn't fathom what might have caused the noise and the jarring.

I looked to my right and over my right shoulder, and there was nobody in the curb lane and I was quite a ways ahead of the parked transport....so I signalled, and pulled to the curb with my flashers on. Had the guy who hit me not done the same (he pulled ahead of me and stopped too) I would not have known what kind of vehicle hit me....because I didn't see him coming at all. He must have been travelling VERY FAST. Either that or he dropped out of the sky just before he hit me.

I looked ahead and saw one head in the driver's seat, and immediately thought "Oh great... some stupid broad....." when a man got out of the driver's door. He was driving a Buick - some kind of funky thing that wasn't quite a car, but not quite a truck either.

Mr. Driver walked back to where I was and said "Are you hurt?" and I said "I'm really pissed off", and smiled. I reached for my license/insurance folder which is always in the inside pocket of my purse, and asked him to go get his information. He said "Are we supposed to call the police" and I said "I don't think so unless the damage is over $700" (that was my second mistake....my first was driving down that road at that particular time). We exchanged information, and off we went. Oh yeah, he said "Thank you" as I was steaming and getting back in my car.

I continued to drive to the dentist where they froze me and drilled out important parts of my skull, but that's a story for another day.

Fast forward to supper time. I explained the story to my other half....and we both know you have 12 hrs to go to an accident reporting centre after an accident. I planned to go before 8am tomorrow morning.

Half way through supper, the phone rings. Isn't that always when the phone rings? The caller was Constable Twelve Year Old - that's exactly how old she sounded. She was calling to advise that Mr. Driver called in the incident so I won't have to. Incident number is ##### and to write it down to give to my insurance company. His Buick is leased, and so it all has to be reported. Fine, I will do that.

I expressed my displeasure with his driving skills... he was going too fast and swerved around the truck (and me) and in an effort to correct his oversteering, steered into my rear driver's side quarter panel.

Anyway....Constable Twelve Yr Old asks if I was injured. No. Was I the only person in my vehicle at the time of the incident. Yes. She then advises that the THREE CHILDREN IN THE BACK OF SCHMUCK'S VEHICLE ARE ALL FINE.

Arrrrrrrrgh! Either they were teeny tiny children, or they were headless...because anyone over about 3 years old in a car seat, well their head stick up OVER the back seat and I think I would have noticed them.

Moral of the story - ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS call the police if you are involved in any kind of accident. ALWAYS! Did I mention ALWAYS??

Nobody was hurt. I probably will NOT fix my car because it's only redeeming quality is the fact that it runs. It's not beautiful by any means, and has had a couple of minor reconstructive surgeries in it's lifetime.

So THAT is the story of my fabulous day.

Strangely enough, although I want to curse and swear about it..I'm not upset. Angry, perhaps... but not all upset about it. Sh!t happens.

Life has been grand lately... so I guess every once in a while some jerk has to throw a wrench into the works.

As the saying goes....tomorrow is another day. I'm hoping for a better one!

History, Family and Genetics

Last week I sent a picture in to the Auroran that I found in a box of genealogy from my grandfather. The picture is of the management team of the T. Sisman Shoe Co. Ltd., and was taken in about 1950:


It's has created quite a stir. Dad got a call from a lady who's lived in the area for many years, who just wanted to know if the Heather Sisman who submitted the picture was any relation to him.

Another lady whom I met at the dinner for the former mayor, Tim Jones, on Thursday night was very enthusiastic about it - she remembered this person and that person and she gave me details on a whole bunch of information that I could have used to write a history report, no doubt. Sadly, I didn't write any of it down.

I will though! The history of my town, and my family, is of great interest to me. My paternal grandfather, John Eades Sisman, (centre, back row of the photo above) traced the Sisman name back as far as 1686 in Leighton Bromswold, Huntingdonshire, England.

I've learned that there are Sismans and Sissmans and Sisemans in Canada, England, Australia, New Zealand, and the U.S.A., and thanks to the internet I've even made contact with some of them. I have a 9th cousin twice removed in Australia, who is about my age. I also have a 3rd cousin twice removed in England, also about my age. Together we've shared genealogical data, names, dates, charts, etc., as well as stories and rumours. I find it all really interesting.

I've heard that genetically all humans share 90% of our DNA with other intelligent life forms like the banana (we're all organic, which accounts for most of it). I wonder though, how it works in form of pedigree, and the genes we share from one family member down the line.

I studied a lot of biology in school, both in highschool and university. I can draw a basic chart of how to figure out what colour your offspring's eyes are likely to be:


My brother looks like our father, who looks like his father, who looks like HIS father, but not all of them have the same eye colour. I can see resemblance in photos between my own brother who was born in 1978 to my great great grandfather who was born in the early 1800s.

I wonder, genetically, what kind of other similarities there are between myself, and these distant cousins who live on other parts of the planet.

At any rate, I plan to keep learning and researching all of this. I want to learn more about the history of my family, the T. Sisman Shoe Co. Ltd., and the town in which I live.

There simply aren't enough hours in the day to squeeze it all in! I'm hoping that anyone out there who sees the pictures in the Auroran, or who is reading my blog, might have more information to share with me.